When Tim and I married, we shared many of the same values, but our interests were mostly far apart except for our children's well-being. It didn't matter until we retired. At first, we pursued our interests apart but slowly realized that the go-go phase would give way to slow-go, then no-go, where we'd spend most of our time together. With this in mind, we started paying attention to new adventures we could enjoy together.
Most of us want contentment. Perhaps it sounds a bit trite. Awakening and enlightenment sound more spiritually advanced. But whatever we call it, we share the desire to be happy.
Man's Search for Meaning, pondered the meaning of life. That's a big undertaking. What feels more manageable is to reflect on how I spend each day. Arriving at the evening of my life was a shift from the pursuit of money to meaning. Now with the luxury of time, I could burrow into anything that captured my attention, meaningful or frivolous. The choice was mine.
People push back when I express my (now) natural state of non-attachment. "I bet you miss seeing your grandchildren?" a friend may say. "No," I say, "but it was wonderful being with them."