My grandchildren live in consumer and tech societies on different continents and in four different U.S. states. Grandkids (blood and adoptive) don't look to me for calories. So, what is my task, if any, as their Amma (grandmother)?
We are often blind to our own behavior and how our words affect others. Too often we tolerate others’ negativity for the sake of being polite. Too often we forget to work on ourselves.
You may be a skeptic when it comes to personality tests. However, they may be more accurate than you believe. But first, let’s get the unpleasantries out of the way. How can you tell if the test is valid?
I didn't see eye-to-eye on every issue with every friend. That was normal. I recall arguing over cocktails about maximum building heights, where I insisted that mountain and ocean views should be left unobstructed for all people to enjoy. My friend believed it belonged to those who could pay for the beach houses and high rise apartments. A group of friends might not have agreed what percent of the state budget should go for road upkeep. As the size of the Michigan potholes widened, consensus got easier to reach. At the end of the night, we'd agree to disagree. No hard feelings. I looked forward to the next time of camaraderie and laughter.
There is a woman in my neighborhood I'll call Louise Barton. LB posts inflammatory news on her Facebook page, seldom providing sources for her information. I've unfriended many males on FB, but I'm slow to cut ties with women. That sure sounds like double standards. It is. I understand my sisters and know their sufferings on account of their gender. I also know that underneath the most rigid shells beat soft hearts.