We are often blind to our own behavior and how our words affect others. Too often we tolerate others’ negativity for the sake of being polite. Too often we forget to work on ourselves.
The first time I noticed a curious pattern in my behavior, wanting one more thing, I was in my early twenties picking up a coat on layaway. It took a while to save enough money, but finally, the coat was mine.
Fantasies offer an insight into who we are. No more looking at inkblots to discover what makes us tick. When I took the Rorschach online, the ten images all looked like a uterus or a woman's profile with pursed lips. I'm not interested to learn what it means.
I want to think others do not influence me, but I know better. Jesus may have resisted the influence of others, but most mortals kowtow to the will of the masses. Jim Rohn, the author of The Art of Exceptional Living, declared that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This idea, referred to as the “proximity effect,” deserves our attention. After all, we want to be with people who uplift and inspire us.
We can experience spiritual highs watching the stars above or drinking a glass of our favorite wine. But, these are temporary antidepressant moments. They don't get to the root of our unease and endless search to feel content and grounded. But they are reminders of just how good it feels when we let go of illusions and live in truth.